Angie: Please welcome my special guest, Sheila Lowe, as she shares some amazing information on how handwriting can help you become more confident...
Sheila: It seems ironic that in blogging about handwriting I’m actually typing at a keyboard. But in the twenty-first century, electronic conversations have become the norm. Does that mean handwriting is going the way of the typewriter? I certainly hope not, as this most personal way of communicating is unique and powerful. After all, would you rather get a love note in an impersonal email, or one that your lover took the time to handwrite? Would it touch your heart more to get a letter through the postal mail from your grandmother, or a typed note that has words, but says little about the personality and character of the writer?
Handwriting is an expressive behavior very much like your facial expressions and tone of voice. It says a great deal about who you are and how you have responded to all the experiences you’ve had through your lifetime—the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly. Your handwriting reflects the person you have become, and it continues to change over time as you draw new experiences and integrate them into your life. So, does that mean if you think your handwriting is unattractive you’re not a good, decent, beautiful person? Absolutely not.
The truth is, while good people certainly have nice handwriting, there are also many who have beautiful looking writing that are in prison! The reasons for this are interesting, but go beyond the scope of this article. Suffice it to say, the way the writing looks–the visual style (school model, printed, elaborate, simplified, etc.)–reveals much about the way you feel about yourself. For example, if you have a poor self-image, you’re likely to use small capital letters and a small personal pronoun I; your t-crossings will probably be low on the stem; your writing may slant downhill. These are just a few of many elements of handwriting, and none of them mean much outside the context of a given writing sample. But they are easy to look for and if you find these characteristics in your handwriting, there is a way to help you improve your self-image.
To express self-confidence, courage, and dignity, make sure your capital letters are about twice as tall as the small letters (but not much higher than that; otherwise, you’re moving into the area of arrogance). Visualize yourself standing tall like those capitals. Keep your t-crossings about halfway to two-thirds up the stem; it’s symbolic of throwing your shoulders back and raising your head. Make your personal pronoun I a straight, firm line—again, standing tall and courageous. You might want to put a firm underline under your signature for emphasis. It will take practice to make this a habit, but soon you’ll find your handwriting changing and you’ll feel different, too.
Because handwriting reflects your past experiences and behavior, making these small changes to the way you write can help you change future behavior. There are other, more global changes that can be made, called graphotherapy, but it’s recommended that you do these only with a trained professional. Feel free to contact me with questions:
Sheila Lowe is the author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Handwriting Analysis, Handwriting of the Famous & Infamous, and the Forensic Handwriting Mystery series. She testifies in court cases involving handwriting and works with clients around the world. She’s currently working on her Master’s degree in Psychology. She is approved by the State of California to provide continuing education for marriage and family therapists (www.superceu.com).